September 10th marks world suicide prevention day.
The WHO estimate that approx. 800, 000 people kill themselves each year with a shit load more attempting it.
Suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 50.
This is something that we don’t talk about, we still see it as a bit of a taboo subject, we can look at the person who took their own life as being selfish, as being a coward about wanting to tap out of life and escape it.
Now I used to think that way too.
Now, there are still some ways that people take their own lives that I don’t get but we won’t go into that.
The thing that has changed is that I understand why they might want to do it.
Why they think that it is their only way out.
That this is it, it’s not going to get any better, so what is the point in me being here, what am I bringing to the world, everyone around me will be better off without me.
I get it, I do understand it.
Mainly because I’ve had those thoughts myself.
The difference is I’ve also had reasons to pull myself through them.
I was lucky, I got to talk to someone.
That is the biggest thing, we just don’t talk enough.
We don’t tell each other how we really are, we spend a lot of our time showing the world what we think they want to see and not what they should be seeing.
We have to live up to a certain way of live.
We put pressure on ourselves to achieve this and when it’s not right we can end up going down some dark twisty spiral.
The thing is.
There is help out there, we can help people not tap out.
We just have to take out blinkers off and look for the signs.
What are they, well they could be anything, but you will know if something is not right.
Call it instinct.
If you are reading this feeling that you have those thoughts, that you have those feelings about not being here then ask for help.
Stick your hand up, it’s not a weakness, it’s not a bad thing to show vulnerability.
Be aware of you.
There are many ways to get help below I’ve stuck a couple of links through to websites that will have better resources and more experience about helping you.
The theme for this years Suicide Prevention Day is to take a minute, change a life.
This is to encourage people to pause for a moment and consider what we can do to help people to live.
It could be anything, just remember sometimes people just want to be noticed.
We are all human.
We all have flaws.
Just remember though, Suicide affects someone left behind.
If you want to listen to a song about it then listen to the Magicians Assistant by Dan Le Sac Vs Scroobius Pip
So, let’s take some time today, take a minute listen to someone, give someone a hug, have a think and if you think someone is struggling drop them a message and ask them how they are doing.
If they open up then don’t judge just listen but point them in the right direction for help.
These are two sites worth having a butchers at.
Remember – There is help out there if you want it.
All you have to do is ask.