It’s seen as a bad thing.
Being Selfish and thinking of yourself and putting yourself first.
But is it?
Not really, I understand as we get older we have people who depend on us, I have 3 kids & a lovely wife who do depend on me, there are clients who depend on me to be there for them and help them get through what they are going through.
However am I selfish? yes
I am because I put my health first, I have to and I want to, because if I didn’t and I was in a complete mess do you think I would be able to be there for them.
Nope of course not.
So where does this come into play for you, well it’s simple very simple, you look after everyone else, you work, you have a house to keep and the fish needs cleaning out, who else is going to do apart from you, no one.
So what happens is you constantly think about everyone else and put them first and let yourself go.
You end up not happy with who you are and end up making excuses about why you can’t change as you have no time etc. You are constantly tired and you feel like everyone is just taking the piss. What happens is you end up giving and giving, so when it comes to giving something to yourself you have nothing left.
Take for example the inflight safety procedure, if you are on a plane you have to put those oxygen masks on yourself first before the kids, you know why that is isn’t it, so why don’t you take that into your own life.
It doesn’t make you a bad person, and I’m not saying you should just say fuck it and forget about everyone else and do everything for yourself, what I am talking about is just enough to enable you to carry on with the rest of the stuff you do.
A lot of my clients come in and just let everything out, you know why? It’s because that hour with me is generally and maybe the only time they have to themselves and it’s precious.
We all need a window in your life where we need to be selfish, where if there is something you want to do, you want to change your health, get fitter, leaner it doesn’t matter, you have to change that mind-set and start putting yourself first.
Doing that will then enable you to actually get things done and start to make that change that you want.
Don’t let everyone else drain your energy levels like the dementors from Harry Potter.
Make yourself strong, put yourself first with your health and then this will enable you to be there for others.
Stop making others your excuse for not doing it.