10 Years in the Making
10 years ago, September 2007, all this started.
I had walked away and given up my old life completely, left a nice job with a regular income and a nice apartment.
Moved cities and started all this up with enough money to last me 6 months.
So, I thought I would write a little something about the stuff I have learnt over the last 10 years, the stuff I have done and used to believe, and what I know now.
This is the thing, as we grow we need to learn new stuff, things change with new science and unless you can open yourself up to change then you risk becoming stagnant.
A lot of people in this industry fail and fall away in the first couple of years and not many make it past 5 years, so I feel amazed and honoured that people still believe in me 10 years down the line.
I get to do a job I love, changing lives and make a living out of it. There have been ups and downs and no doubt could make more money cleaning the streets, but if I was in it for the money, I wouldn’t have left my previous life.
So, here are a few things I’ve learnt over the time. They are not in any particular order, just what pops into my head, so expect a random order of things;
This will be in two parts as it went on a bit.
1) Kids need some quiet time. I don’t mean in a ‘they have been naughty’ type of way but they need to be able to switch off more than they do.
2) Adults need some quiet time…see the previous one, life is run at 100mph these days and we are connected to everything all the time. We need to be able to remove ourselves from it all and switch off.
3) Some of the most rewarding moments of this job have been working with kids, mostly working with kids with special needs, seeing what they have been able to achieve through sheer determination, is amazing.
4) Watching people that have absolutely zero self confidence in themselves change over time, and believe in who they are and love themselves is a bloody good thing to watch.
5) Seeing people make that change in their lives inspires me to keep going.
6) Appearing vulnerable is not a weakness, not admitting or asking for help can be. Stop hiding away from it all and face it with someone by your side. It’s always better to take on a fight if you have someone who has got your back.
7) I like hitting things, not people so to speak, although sparring is quite enjoyable, realising that I’m not made of glass is a nice feeling but letting the days’ stresses and tensions out on the bag or pads is always a good feeling.
8) It doesn’t have to be complicated; training is not complicated, keep it simple and be consistent and you will get results, no need to try to do a back squat whilst standing on a Bosu ball, it is idiot things like that, that keep A&E departments busy. If you keep to the big lifts, and then have some accessory work and a bit of cardio, then you have got it made.
9) You can do too much, the body needs to recover from the stress you put it under, if you don’t allow it too, it just gets broken down and at some point, some things will give up. You won’t be able to do what you want.
10) People’s emotional attachment to food is deeper than you may think.
11) I get hangry
12) I can do more than I think, I pushed myself outside of my comfort zone to see if I could do it, I can push myself mentally as well as physically.
13) I’m quite partial to a bit of mud and water.
14) Road running bores me.
15) I constantly feel like I could do more, I feel the need to be able to do that little bit more for people.
16) I’m not a babysitter, I can point people in the right direction but I can’t be with them 24 hours a day.
17) Some people just aren’t ready for change, even though they may say they want to, they just aren’t ready mentally to put the work in to get it.
18) I used to have a shit diet.
19) There is a fat bloke inside me dying to get out.
20) Once a smoker always a smoker, even though I gave up over 10 years ago, I still get the odd craving now.
21) You shouldn’t drink diet drinks as your body can synthesise the sugars in the full fat ones much better, Jesus what bollocks did I used to spout, you cannot consume enough diet drinks for them to become harmful, they can be very handy for those people who are on a calorie restrictive diet and have a sweet craving.
22) Intermittent fasting is no good for women as it fucks up your hormones, see previous one about bollocks I used to spout, it is rubbish, eat when you want.
23) You don’t have to have breakfast.
24) One particular food group doesn’t make you fat. Carbs don’t make you fat, fat doesn’t make you fat, protein doesn’t make you fat, what makes you fat is consuming too much of it all.
25) All diets work, because they have one thing in common, they all put you on a calorie deficit.
26) It’s not your hormones.
27) Quick fixes are generally not sustainable.
28) People are inherently stupid and lazy, yep a lot of the time you don’t want to put the work into it so will spend a ridiculous amount of money on meal replacement shakes etc, and almost punish your body to lose the weight and then don’t educate yourself on how you need to be eating, so go back to eating the way you used to.
29) Lots of veggies are needed and are great for bulking out meals, especially green leafy ones are lovely and good for you but also bulk that meal out so you become full without all the calories.
30) I still dislike asparagus.
31) I forget I’ve eaten beetroot sometimes and I think I’m dying.
32) I can’t tolerate dairy, thank fuck Ben & Jerry’s are bringing over their dairy free ice cream, about time Ben & indeed Jerry.
33) People will self-sabotage because of fear, they are scared that they still won’t be happy when they achieve what they set out to achieve.
34) I would rather sit in and watch the TV than go to the pub.
35) I love live music even more, although the smaller venue will always beat the bigger venue.
36) Myspace was great for finding new music, now you have to go down rabbit holes on spotify.
37) I find calm under the needle at the tattoo shop.
38) I also find calm at Avebury sat amongst the stones and looking at the sea which is not at Avebury in case you didn’t know.
39) I love to surf, I need to get a wetsuit over the winter as next spring and summer I will be spending more time in the sea.
40) People will never be happy with what they see on the scales, although it is a good indicator on how your weight loss is going, it’s not brilliant, it doesn’t show you how your body is made up, look at the how your clothes feel, how you look at yourself in the mirror, if things are changing and you can see it then it’s all good.
41) If you can’t see yourself eating a certain way in a years’ time then don’t do it.
42) Optimal Fitness and health isn’t about just getting shredded or getting bigger, it is about being better than you were and being the best possible version of yourself.
So that is part 1 as you can see it went on a bit, part 2 will come out later in the week.
The question you have to ask though what have you learnt over the past 10 years?